Sunday, December 11, 2016


It was a dark and stormy night.

It really was, back on Dec. 11, 2007.

I've told the story before. It was cold and rainy outside while Steve and I huddled in a dark room at the nearby hospital, standing next to a radiologist, talking to Steve's primary care physician on the phone, staring at films that showed an out-of-place spot in the pons of Steve's brain stem.

No one in that moment believed the spot was a tumor. Steve was too healthy (except the nagging symptoms that sent him to the doctor in the first place). It had to be demyelination or multiple sclerosis or some other unknown inflammation.

Of course, we were all wrong.

My pastor spoke today about the choices people make when faced with a real-life nightmare. We've all lived a nightmare -- the worst-case news that we've feared or never even imagined. Billy spoke today about how we aren't defined by the nightmare but rather how we behave when we wake up.

We're defined by the joy we embrace, the strength we find in knowing that God surrounds us and lives within us.

Steve received nightmarish news on Dec. 11. His official diagnosis, after a harrowing biopsy a few weeks later, made the nightmare even worse.

But he woke up and kept on living. He made people laugh, he continued the work that he loved, he read books to his children, he lavished praise, he read novels, he watched movies, he learned how to knit, he prayed.

I think of all the families we know who have been touched by tragedy in the past nine years. Dozens and dozens of families who have had their own MRI Day, who wake up from their own nightmares, who have said goodbye too early to loved ones, who have experienced loss that shakes -- and sometimes sharpens -- their faith.

We are fragile people, and we are strong people.

Tonight, as I think of Steve and his MRI Day and the pain he endured and the joy he shared despite that pain, I also think of Jeff, who had his own MRI Day yesterday. He has brain surgery tomorrow. I think of Suzanne, who had her own MRI Day earlier this year and has breast reconstruction surgery tomorrow.

I am praying for Jeff and Suzanne and a too-long list of friends who face trials and crises. I pray that they find strength to get through the nightmare, that they feel loved, that they feel joy in the darkness.

We don't know how many dark and stormy nights we have in store. Sometimes the storm builds, and sometimes it pops up in the middle of sunshine. Sometimes the night lasts longer than we think we can handle.

Nine years after our MRI Day, I continue to give thanks for the community that surrounded us, for the kind souls who still encourage us, and for God, who offers strength and guidance and joy for the journey.

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. (Romans 15:13)

Cooper, Tyra & Katie, Thanksgiving Day 2016

Monday, November 7, 2016

48 Acts of Kindness (13)

Christina in Frisco:

We purchased turkey bucks at Tom Thumb for those in need in honor of Steve ❤️


Dallas in Seattle:

Paid our entrance fee to Hurricane Ridge at Olympic National Park, and also for the next car to enter (no one was immediately behind us). The park ranger was in tears when we asked her to give the note to the next vehicle. She said a prayer for Steve and the Damm family too. 💗


Shilpa in Plano:

I made two soups for my sick friend and dropped them by her door.


Kelly in Frisco:

I loved honoring Steve and his legacy by delivering a Salsa gift card to a friend and giving my co-workers a little gift. Kindness Matters! 💗


Cheslea in Frisco:

Saturday, November 5, 2016

48 Acts of Kindness (12)

Sarah in Richardson:

John and I donated in memory of Steve to Take Me Home Pet Rescue in Richardson. We are thinking of you all!


Kelly in Frisco:

Gave $20's to some day laborers on Main St. in Frisco.


Lisa in Frisco:

Grandsons Kindon and Logan and I paid for a random family of four to get into Sharkarosa with us today and experience a close encounter with a sloth. We also gave Starbucks gift cards to two pre-vet interns who work there. We loved their reaction! Thank you for continuing this every year. 


Lisa in Plano:

Left a special donation to the Friends of the Library in honor of Steve. I think it will bring a smile to the volunteer who finds it in with all the quarters!


Special note of thanks to Katie's band director, Ms. Jordan. She taught the sixth-grade double reed class how to play "Happy Birthday to You" on Steve's birthday. The other students didn't know why, but Katie did.

48 Acts of Kindness (11)

Some of the ways Cooper, Katie and I celebrated ...

We delivered flowers to a nearby nursing home for residents who might need some cheer.

Katie gave gift cards to helpers at the Reedy-Liberty football game.

Cooper gave chocolate to all of teachers.

She gave pencils to each student in her language arts class and Starbucks cards to all of her teachers.

I surprised some co-workers with supplies and other goodies.

We left gift cards at gas station pumps.

We gave a gift card to our cashier at dinner.

48 Acts of Kindness (10)

Tracy in Frisco:

If you know Miss Cate, you know how much she loves stuffed animals. Today we dropped off Webkins for the C-A-mille bags. These bags have food items that kids love! These stuffed animals will be a fun treat. 

We dropped off donuts to Minnie's Food Pantry Volunteers and people waiting to receive their meal. 


Sarah in Frisco:

Cupcakes for gymnastics coaches for all of their hard work every day with my gymnast!


Amy in Dallas:

We delivered macarons to a nearby crossing guard and handed out Chikfila gift cards


Valarmathi in Frisco:

We donated money to a medical center in India where they do free kidney transplantation for poor people in memory Steve.


Addie in Frisco:

Frozen custard for the wrestlers behind me in line at Andy's - they said it was their "cheat day" treat :-)


Amber in Dallas:

My mother and I both participated in remembering Steve today! We put together a goody bag for a mommy friend of mine who has 3 kids under the age of 4! 😳Her husband told her to take the weekend off and get a hotel room by herself. We gave her some relaxing essentials for her getaway. Thank you for being an inspiration to us all! 💖


Betsy in Frisco:

We gave a gift card to a stranger at Starbucks and Old Navy in honor of Steve. So sad I never got to meet him. Thanks for sharing your story!


David in Mesquite:

After a day of hard work I took my Et Cetera crew out for tacos. Spread the love on Nov 4. 


Nancy in Frisco:

We're sending a relative (that just returned from active military duty overseas)and his family a gift card for a nice dinner out on us.

Friday, November 4, 2016

48 Acts of Kindness (9)

Melissa in Helotes:

Our family made GoFundMe donations to help defray the costs of 4 funerals in 2 families after a horrific car accident a few days ago. In one car, a Mother and 2 children, ages 9 and 10 were killed instantly, and 2 other family members hospitalized. In the other car, a 19 yr old woman and her boyfriend died instantly as well. One of these families we don't know at all, but wanted to do something for all of them. Life is precious, so we celebrate Steve's life and the loved ones lost in the Bernal Portocarrero and Bartolome families of Tampa, Florida today.


Denise in Colorado Springs:

We gave a gift card for a single Mom and her gorgeous daughter to go to the movies. In memory of Steve. Tyra Damm he still makes a difference and so do you!!!


Stuart in Rowlett:

$100 to North Texas Food Bank in memory of Steve Damm.


Angie in Frisco:

While celebrating Liz's birthday- we "double tipped" our waitress in honor of Steve! 


Caren in Plano:

I'm part of a local running group call Moms Run This Town. Members have MRTT magnets on their cars, and if you see another magnet around town, you flip it upside down. I worked with one of the chapter coordinators to buy magnets for 10 random members in honor of 48 Acts of Kindness. She loved the idea so much, she decided to buy another 10 magnets. Today she posted it to the group FB page. Below is a screenshot of her post.


Nancy in Dallas:

I bought a student ticket for the next student who comes to Uptown Playersto see Angels in America at the Kalita Humphreys Theater in honor of Steve.


Nicole in Frisco:

Bought the woman behind us at Pie Five dinner!! She was so thankful!! 😀😀


Marilyn in Charlottesville, Va.:

Took a friend to pick up her car at the shop, bought popcorn and drinks for one friend and 2 strangers behind us at the Film Festival and left an extra large tip for the barrista at the coffee shop. It was a Damm good day!

I made a donation to Alex's Lemonade Stand Foundation in memory of Steve.

48 Acts of Kindness (8)

Jennifer in Carrollton:

Pumpkin cookies packed for sharing. 


Anonymous friend:

I went to Walmart and walked around until I found just the right person to give the envelope to. 


Loryn in McKinney:

Pumpkin roll for kindergarten, second grade and office staff at McClure Elementary School


Allison in Frisco:

Change for vending machines at the hospital


Shari in Lucas:

I put these together to give as favors for our Head for the Cure North Texas Survivors luncheon tomorrow. These are for the co-survivors.


Beth in Plano:

Bought dinner for some of my student newspaper editors, working late on a Friday prepping the next issue and planning for election night. 


Melanie in Las Vegas:

I'm working SEMA trade show and we have leftover catering. Meals for the homeless in Las Vegas tonight!!!



I was in an electronics store today. I purchased an iPhone case for a young lady. She was born the year that I graduated high school. She used all of the money that she said to replace her iPhone. She needed a case. 

God bless her. Pay it forward. 


Deborah in Frisco:

Frisco' Central Fire station is going to enjoy some ice cream sundaes tonight.


Judie in Fort Worth:

Baked and delivered a chicken pot pie to a dear friend.


Cyndi in Frisco:

Bought chicken minis for the Hosp staff


Heather in Frisco:

Brought doughnuts for the Hosp staff


Tim in Frisco:

Brought doughnuts for the Hosp staff

48 Acts of Kindness (7)

Steve in Dallas:

Our friend Tom died a few weeks ago. Today, some friends and I cleared out his overgrown side yard for his wife.


Marcy in Carrollton:

Gift cards for Tess and Sutton's teachers. We love #dammkind day!


Sara in Frisco:

I bought lunch for some of our amazing Hosp office staff. :) Such a great way to honor Steve!


Mary in Bedford:

I brought two Sonic gift cards and two Acts of Kindness fliers to my neighborhood police station, with a note to the police chief asking him to give them to an officer who is having a hard day. I asked that the officer keep one flier/gift card and give the other to a citizen who is having a hard day. Also gave the Sonic carhop a fat tip.


Tracy in Frisco:

Salsa is our favorite family restaurant. There was a couple with their granddaughter having a blast at dinner. Family time is the best! 


Lauren in Frisco:

Gift cards for teachers and coaches today! One of the coaches said, "It makes you want to do something nice for someone else. Pay it forward!" Love it!❤️


Alyssa in Plano/Frisco:

One of the teachers who received a Sonic drink talked about acts of kindness with her students. She challenged them to plan acts of kindness through the weekend and report back on Monday! It's spreading!


Jana in Frisco:

Breakfast for Bledsoe, Pearson, and Kids R Kids teachers this morning. 


Madison in Lewisville/Frisco:

Coffee for the car behind me 


Suzanne in Frisco:

Snacks for the people who ease my pain. ❤️